What to Expect in Couples Therapy: A Note From a Baltimore Couples Therapist

Baltimore couples therapist, Ellie Miller, walks you through what to expect in a couples therapy session (gottman therapy approach)

Navigating the idea of couples therapy can be daunting for many. Whether you're considering it as a proactive measure or in response to challenges in your relationship, understanding the process can ease some of your concerns.

Let's delve into what you can expect!

1. Embracing Vulnerability

Engaging in couples therapy often requires confronting sensitive subjects. It's natural to feel vulnerable or even apprehensive.

Remember, therapy offers a safe space to handle these moments, leading to real growth and understanding.

 
Baltimore Couples Therapy, a pic of a couple holding hands to illustrate a blog post about what to expect in couples therapy written by baltimore, maryland and virginia based couples therapist, Ellie Miller
 

2. The Therapist's Neutral Stance

One common misconception is that the therapist will take sides. This isn’t the case. A seasoned couples therapist aims to remain somewhat impartial, offering a balanced perspective.

Their goal is to facilitate communication and understanding, not to decide who's right or wrong.

3. Open Communication is Key

Expect to communicate—both with your partner and the therapist. Effective therapy often hinges on openness.

While it might be challenging to vocalize certain feelings or issues initially, over time, this open dialogue can pave the way for deeper understanding and connection.

 

4. Homework Isn't Just for School

Don't be surprised if your therapist assigns "homework." This could be anything from practicing communication exercises to reading materials or engaging in individual reflections.

These tasks aim to reinforce what you've discussed during sessions and promote continued growth outside of the therapy room.

5. It's a Journey, Not a Sprint

While many of us would love a quick fix, couples therapy is more of a marathon than a sprint. It's about understanding patterns, breaking down barriers, and building stronger foundations.

This process takes time, effort, and commitment.

6. Expect Ups and Downs

Like any form of therapy or personal growth, there will be highs and lows.

There might be sessions that leave you feeling elated and others that feel particularly challenging. It's all part of the process.

7. A Collaborative Effort

Lastly, remember that the success of couples therapy largely depends on the commitment of both parties involved.

While the therapist provides guidance and tools, it's up to you and your partner to put in the work both inside and outside the therapy room.

Strengthening Bonds: The Transformative Path of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a valuable tool that can offer clarity, understanding, and growth. By setting realistic expectations and committing to the process, many couples find a renewed sense of connection and direction.

Whatever your journey looks like, know that taking this step is a testament to the value you place on your relationship.

Hey, I'm Ellie, a Baltimore therapist helping couples and women with anxiety and couples with communication.

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