Online couples therapy for communication, conflict, and connection in Baltimore, Maryland and Virginia

AH, RELATIONSHIPS.

Ready to build the kind of relationship you can relax into?

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Virtual couples therapy // Ellie Miller, Licensed Clinical Therapist in Baltimore, Maryland & Virginia

I WISH MORE COUPLES KNEW THIS-

Couples therapy can be ridiculously helpful.

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I absolutely love this work. So often, two people come in feeling completely stuck, and underneath all that frustration is something surprisingly workable.

Sometimes it’s learning to understand each other a little differently, respond differently in that familiar moment, or finally say what you actually need.

I’ve seen it happen so many times: the places where you get stuck can become the places where you get closer.

(OK, couples therapy nerd-out complete.)

Where Things Get a Bit Tricky…

The Same Fight. Again.

You swear you’re talking about something different this time, but somehow you end up in the exact. same. place. Nothing gets resolved, and you’re both tired of doing this dance.
All Logistics, No Romance

You still love each other. You still like each other, even! But somewhere between work, kids, chores, and everything else, the romantic part has gotten a little lost.
"That's Not What I Meant!"

You’re both trying to explain yourselves, and somehow both walking away feeling misunderstood. The harder you try to get your point across, the further apart you seem to get.
How are We Supposed to Decide This?!

Money. Parenting. Sex. Family. Careers. Who’s doing what. What comes next. Some conversations just have a way of getting complicated fast.

NOT TO BE ALL CRYPTIC, BUT…

It’s probably not about the thing you think it’s about.

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Maybe it’s the dishes, a text that went unanswered, or how often your mother comes over. And sure, sometimes it really is about the dishes, but a lot of the time there’s other stuff wrapped up in there too. It could be feeling unimportant, unappreciated, alone in things, or unsure whether your partner really gets it.

That’s usually the more interesting, and helpful stuff to work with.

How Couples Therapy Works

First, we'll figure out what's actually happening.

We kick off our journey by exploring your relationship's unique dynamics, using a specialized, research based couples assessment.
Then, we start shifting patterns.

This is where we try out different ways of responding, communicating, and asking for what you need. We’ll pay attention to what actually works for you two rather than forcing some perfect communication formula.
And then, we practice the heck out of it.

Because understanding your pattern is great, but you also need to be able to catch it on a random Tuesday when you’re tired and already annoyed. We’ll work on making the new stuff usable in your actual life.